Monday, April 6, 2009

My Recent Happenings

I have not been able to get any stitching done in the last week. I am barely reading the posts in the digest from the groups I am in, much less being able to take time to respond. I am reading the ones withe Papillion Creations SAL. I am waiting on my fabric to arrive which should be any day! I am working on a 'model stitch' that is needing to be completed quickly, I am contacting the designer and having to return it. I hate to do so, but it will unfair to her if I keep it and do not complete it in time.

My 14 year old son, Anthony, has been in the hospital for a week now. He was also there for 2 weeks in February. He is not doing well at all. His official diagnosis has been changed to 'mixed mood disorder not otherwise defined'. This is the hardest type to treat since it is bits and pieces of a few disorders and all can not be treated. I took him because he punched me his fist, threw his shoes at me and told me he was going to kill me. He is most likely going to a residential treatment facility in San Antonio some time this week. That does not mean that he will live their permanently...it means he will be there until his behavior shows he can come home. He was in a similar facility 2 years ago for 2 months.

Last month during Spring Break he threw a skateboard at his dad's house and put a hole in his bedroom door. His dad locked himself in his bedroom fearing for his life (Dad's exact words). He states that Anthony is not welcome in his house anymore. The facility will most likely require weekly therapy sessions in person--the burden will entirely be on me. His dad states he will go visit him. I am thinking "For what?" he is not willing to attend the therapy sessions, so I am not sure I want him to be able to visit. If he is to going to have him go to his house, why visit him in a facility? If he is not going to be a parent, why show up? I will be sending him an email shortly saying so, unless my friend talks me out of it (good luck to her). I have also thought that I could talk to therapist at the facility and make it a requirement that his dad attend therapy sessions in order to be allowed visitation. It may already be a requirement, I am not sure.

I am hanging on as usual. I absolutely wish that God would stop trying to make me a stronger person and move onto someone else already---I am sick of hearing things like 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'. I do not wish to be any freakin stronger!!! A normal life without this many issues would be wonderful and gratefully appreciated!!! lol

12 comments:

Terry said...

Hope things work out for you soon and that you can get some much needed down time. Sounds like you've been having way too much fun at your house and need a break. Keeping fingers and toes crossed that things settle down quickly for you.

Millie Lill said...

Melinda, I hope your son gets better soon and that God quits trying to make you stronger. I had to smile when I read that. I'm always bemoaning when He tries to teach me patience! Take care.

Rene la Frog said...

I won't give you all the crap about making you stronger or other sayings. Just hang in there and know we are all here for you when you need to vent or need a shoulder to cry on. I certainly hope they can do something for your son and the ordeal will be over soon. Take some much needed "ME" time.

Remy said...

Melinda,
This technique can help to alleviate the physical effects of the stress your dealing with. http://www.emofree.com It's been very successful with veterans, and WTC survivors suffering from PTSD. Simple, but most good things are. Will keep you in my prayers.
Remy

sales said...

I am so sorry that you are having such troubles with your son. I hope the residential treatment center will be able to help him and he can come home without him being a risk to you or himself. remember to take some time for yourself.
Heidi-ILCS

EvalinaMaria said...

Take some time for yourself. I will pray for you and Anthony.

Carolyn NC said...

Melinda,
I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this. Hope this treatment will be able to help him and that you can have some peace and it is all resolved. Will pray for you both.

Stitching Cat said...

Melinda, so sorry to read your post. I hope that your son gets the treatment he so dearly needs and that you can get the support that you so dearly need as well. I hope that your days will improve quickly and that you will be able to enjoy life as it should be enjoyed. Best wishes and cyber hugs.

Cynimin said...

Melinda,
I am praying for you and your son and his father. I pray there will be peace and calmness in all of your lives.

Mylene said...

Sending good thoughts your way, Melinda. Take care.

Carol said...

That's got to be a tough situation for all of you.

Got a question since I don't know the history of your son's outbursts. How many food and environmental allergies has he been tested for?

Meari said...

How is your son doing now? I saw you post that you're going to visit this weekend.